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Dear Eric: I am in a predicament with my older sister. My mother passed away a few years ago, before getting her assets in order. This resulted in my sister gaining access to the majority of my mother's assets. My sister has lived in the family home for much of her life, most recently since 2010. She feels it is hers, but she has never had a ...Read more

Dear Eric: I'm not sure how to feel. I have been married for 37 years. About 43 years ago my husband (who was not my husband then) had a one-night hookup. The woman is now with my husband's brother. It is very uncomfortable and awkward for him and me.

I don't feel right being in the same room with her. We have decided not to attend family ...Read more

Dear Eric: I have been married nearly 35 years. We and my husband’s family all live a few blocks from each other.

My husband’s father passed away a year ago. My husband coordinated a family outing to the beach for Father’s Day. We found out that his brother hosted his mother and sister for a barbecue down the block after the gathering. We...Read more

Dear Eric: This is probably an odd question. A very large percentage of the time, more than 50 percent, when I come home from being out (lunch/shopping/whatever), my husband is in the restroom. The powder room is right next to his office and sometimes I’ve tried to open the door, and it’s locked, which seems odd since he’s the only one in ...Read more

Dear Eric: I am a 62-year-old woman who recently relocated to her hometown in the Midwest from the East Coast, after 40 years. I have a wonderful network of friends here, whom I’ve known practically my entire life.

I’m happier than I could have imagined with my decision to move here.

Something that has become apparent is, while I have a ...Read more

Dear Eric: My estranged niece has a 9-year-old daughter whom we love very much. The father was married with children when she was born and died a few days after.

We strongly feel his parents have a right to know of this fantastic child. Grandniece will eventually seek them out. By letting them know now it should ease the shock of learning later...Read more

Dear Eric: My mom, 75, has been living with me and my husband for five years. One day she said she was selling her house and said she was moving in with me. She had always talked about it, and I told her, when the time came, she could move in as long as she added a room and a bathroom to our small bungalow. She had plenty of money to fund this. ...Read more

Dear Eric: I recently left a members-only business network group to which I belonged for half of my professional life. I was always a very active member of the group. Every year, I consistently gave many more client referrals than I received. I was happy overall with the business sent my way, so I kept renewing my membership and didn't complain ...Read more

Dear Eric: My oldest daughter is going through a rough divorce. Her soon to be ex-husband is asking for alimony, extra expenses and basically putting her through the ringer, because he thinks she owes it to him due to her infidelity. She met her new boyfriend when she was still married.

This has put my grandchild in a difficult and confusing ...Read more

Dear Eric: I need you to smack me upside the head. I'm married with two young kids. For some reason, I've developed a huge crush on a guy who works at my local supermarket. This is eating me alive! I hate that I feel this way. I think about him all the time, he's popped up in my dreams, and I find myself looking for him when I go to the market. ...Read more

Dear Eric: Is it normal for an unmarried man over 60 to want a baby? Where should he look for a marriage-minded young woman willing to accept the age difference? How should he deal with the social stigma against May-December relationships?

– Ticking Biological Clock

Dear Clock: Anyone who is thinking about becoming a parent would be wise to ...Read more

Dear Eric: Over the years I noticed one of my spouse’s sisters seemed generally overly sensitive with sudden emotional outbursts and a tendency to play the victim.

My spouse’s last living parent died, and the estate needed to be divided equally between all of the siblings. Sister loaded up her car with many valuable items before making her ...Read more

Dear Eric: I am 57, and I am the fourth of five siblings. My adolescent years were marked by loneliness, fear, bullying from others because of my weight and anxiety. I had no outlet to express myself so I either over ate or took out my rage on my younger sister.

When I grew up, I would often ruminate over how badly I treated my sister in my ...Read more

Dear Eric: I was an attorney when I started having memory problems at age 65. I retired and subsequently learned that I had a devastating rare dementia with a very short lifespan. Instead of providing me support, my friends disappeared from my life, at the time I needed them most. Friends may rally around you when you have cancer, driving you to...Read more

Dear Eric: Our family will be celebrating our mother’s 100th birthday this fall. We were planning on having an open house to include my mom’s only living sister, family and community neighbors to honor a 100-year legacy that doesn’t happen for everyone.

My niece’s son proposed to his girlfriend in February and decided to set a wedding ...Read more

Dear Readers: On March 16, I shared a letter from “Mother of Three,” who lost her daughter five years ago and felt unsure about how to respond when people ask, “how many children do you have?” A number of readers wrote in with thoughtful and empathetic suggestions. I’d like to share four with you today.

Dear Eric: I lost my beautiful,...Read more

Dear Eric: I would like to get along better with my niece's wife, and I'm hoping you might offer some strategies.

The wife's a nice person, but she's high maintenance in ways that make whatever group she's in bend to keep her comfortable. The boat tour has to go a certain speed, so she doesn't get queasy. She has to drive whatever car she's in,...Read more

Dear Eric: I am retired after 40 years of teaching at the same institution. Recently,

a former colleague of mine died. I was never close to this woman, but we were in the same department and had to collaborate on many projects and initiatives. Dealing with her was a challenge, but I tried my best to be professional. She was often unpleasant to ...Read more

Dear Eric: I am a 62-year-old woman engaged to a 59-year-old man. He is my best friend. The problem? His 25- and 29-year-old daughters do not work or contribute to the household at all. They stay up all night and play games and sleep all day. Thankfully, I have my own home. I refuse to marry him until these "lumps" move out.

We have been ...Read more

Dear Eric: A woman who works for me dresses in a provocative fashion. We work in a formal professional setting. She wore a black lace dress with cleavage on a Monday and I blurted out “boy, you’re dressed up for a Monday!” Her response was that she had a date that night.

I get complaints from coworkers that her flesh-baring outfits are ...Read more